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I never thought I’d be a Stay-at-Home Mom

If you had asked me years ago where I thought I’d be, being a stay-at-home mom would have never crossed my mind. I’ve been working since I was 16, and for most of my life, working was all I knew. The daily grind, the hustle, the satisfaction of earning my own way—it was a big part of my identity. Then I met my husband, and along with him came two beautiful little girls. I fell in love with them instantly, but at that time, I was still working and went back to school. I didn’t see how my life would change, not just because I became a stepmom, but also because my future was about to take a completely different direction.

When I became pregnant with my first son, I assumed I’d go back to work, and like many working moms, I planned to put him in daycare. It seemed simple enough. But as life often does, things took an unexpected turn. When the time came, I couldn’t go through with it. My heart pulled me in a different direction, and I made the decision to stay home with my boys. It wasn’t the path I envisioned, but I’m grateful for it every day. Being a stay-at-home mom is a blessing, but I won’t lie—it’s tough. I’m still learning how to manage it all. The never-ending to-do lists, juggling housework, cooking, laundry, errands, and raising two active little boys—it can feel overwhelming. There are days where I struggle, feeling like I’m stretched too thin, and just keeping up can be exhausting. And then, at the beginning of this year, my world shifted again.

My 4-year-old was diagnosed with autism. This news brought a new layer of challenges that I wasn’t prepared for. Navigating meltdowns, managing nonverbal communication, and trying to understand his needs is a daily journey. Some days are harder than others. It can feel isolating and overwhelming at times, but I’m learning, slowly but surely, how to cope and support my son the best way I can. I’m not perfect, and there are days I feel like I’m barely holding it together, but I’ve also grown in ways I never imagined. I’ve learned that it’s okay to ask for help, and that self-care is important even when you’re giving so much to others. Choosing to stay at home has given me precious moments with my boys that I wouldn’t trade for the world. I’m still adjusting, still figuring it out as I go, but I’m proud of the life we’re building—messy, chaotic, and full of love. 

Potty Training Journey: Navigating Challenges with My Son

Potty training is a significant milestone for any parent, but when you’re working with a child on the spectrum who is nonverbal, it can feel like a rollercoaster ride. Despite the well-meaning advice from others, it often seems like they don’t fully grasp the unique struggles we face.

After a few unsuccessful attempts and some inconsistency on my part, my son seemed to revert back to his old habits. I realized I needed to commit fully, so I cleared my schedule from Friday to Sunday to focus solely on potty training.

Day 1: A Fresh Start

I decided to kick off this weekend with a strategy that felt right for my son. On the first day, I let him roam around the house without any clothes on. This approach helped him connect with his body’s cues. Every 30 minutes, I gently guided him to the potty. To my delight, he did really well! Each success, no matter how small, felt like a victory.

Days 2 and 3: Big Boy Underwear

Feeling encouraged, I moved to big boy underwear on days two and three. It was a huge leap for both of us! By then, he started going to the bathroom on his own, and I couldn’t help but feel an overwhelming sense of pride. The fact that he was having fewer accidents was so encouraging!

The Poop Challenge

However, we still face challenges, particularly with getting him to poop in the potty. It’s a struggle that many parents can relate to, but I remind myself that it’s just part of the process. Patience is key, and I trust that he will get there in his own time.

Finding Support

Throughout this journey, I’ve realized how important it is to stay consistent and celebrate every small victory. Potty training is a process, not a race, and it requires a lot of love and encouragement. I also want to reach out to other parents who might be feeling overwhelmed. You’re not alone in this.

Every child learns at their own pace, especially when they have different needs. Together, we can support one another through these challenges and celebrate the progress we make, no matter how small it may seem.

So here’s to the ongoing journey of potty training! I’m hopeful and excited for what lies ahead, knowing that every step we take brings us closer to success.

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